You wouldn't go see a movie you didn't preview, or lease a car you didn't test-drive, or drink a wine you didn't sniff--this is NoCal for God's sake! Some people even prefer to sniff, drink, then spit it all out. Not me....
Ahem... My point is that it can be awfully charming to get to know one another over dinner and drinks before deciding which fluids should go where.
Some men feel sensual pleasure via their loins alone, and if that's you I'm not judging or dictating at all. But for the rest of us, the most pleasurable relationships begin with establishing a trusting connection based on fun, flirty, and open communication.
From there, things have a lovely way of blossoming naturally.
(Duos available upon request.)